By alice brooking Jan 08, 2015
With the New Year here I am sure many people have come up with some New Year's Resolutions, a list of things you want to achieve, do or be like this year. I personally am not one of those people. I have never had a resolution for the new year, it is a tradition that doesn't seem to resonate with me. I am not saying New Year's resolutions aren't beneficial as I am sure many people have achieved great things! Here are 3 reasons why I personally do not do New Year's Resolutions.
The time is NOW not Next Year!
Something I have never quite understood is why people seem to wait until it's a New Year to think about making some positive changes in their life. “Next year I'm going to eat heatlhy”, “I'm going to quit smoking next year” and the classic “New year, New me!” How is July different from January? Why not start setting (achievable) goals and making positive changes right now? NOW is all you have, you don't have next year. When “next year” does arrive it will be a NOW moment anyways.
When lists get made and goals get set there is a certain amount of pressure to complete them, otherwise you wouldn't have set the goals in the first place. We have a tendency to be hardest on ourselves and when we percieve we have “failed” at something, feeling's of disappointment or worthlessness may arise. Something that is supposed to be constructive can very easily become the opposite. Don't get me wrong as resolutions have resulted in some amazing things. It is what is it!
The only constant is change
The person you are now is not the person you will be in a day, week, month or year. We are constantly evolving and growing in every moment. Learning new things and gaining greater understanding is what we are here for. Why make a resolution for the year when you have no idea how you will be feeling in times to come? What seemed like a good idea at the time may seem like a terrible idea in a week so why make plans for the whole year! I say go with the flow in life, don't put any unecessary pressure on yourself. I found that as soon as I stopped trying to plan my life, things started happening.
Here is a nice little quote to ponder.
“If you're depressed, you're living in the past. If you're anxious, you're living in the future. If you're at peace, you're living in the present”
- Lao Tzu